How to Raise a Grateful Child in an Entitled World

Parenting
March 26, 2025

It's no secret that kids today are more entitled than ever.

With helicopter parents and a society that caters to their every whim, it's no wonder that kids today expect everything to be handed to them on a silver platter.

So how can parents raise a grateful child in an entitled world?

Here are a few ideas and tips.  

Step 1: Be a Role Model

The first and most important step is to be a role model for your child. If you are always expecting things to be handed to you and never showing gratitude, your child will likely follow in your footsteps.

Thank people often, even for small things like someone holding the door open for you. Show your appreciation and make sure your child sees you doing it.

When you express gratitude for the good things in your life, your child will learn to do the same.

Similarly, when you complain or focus on what you don't have, your child will pick up on that as well. Of course, it's also important to teach your child about the value of helping others and giving back to the community.

By showing your child that there is more to life than just getting what they want, you can help them develop into a well-rounded and grateful individual. This is an important step when trying to raise a grateful child in an entitled world.  

person holding up a sign that says grateful

Step 2: Teach Them to Work for What They Want

In today's world, it's more important than ever to raise children who are grateful for what they have.

With so much focus on material possessions and instant gratification, it's easy for children to develop a sense of entitlement.

As a result, they may grow up believing that they are owed certain things, without ever having to work for them.

While it's important to give children some level of freedom and responsibility, it's also crucial to teach them the value of hard work. Some easy chores young children can do to help are:

  • Setting/clearing the table
  • Loading/unloading the dishwasher
  • Feeding pets
  • Picking up their toys
  • Putting away their clothes

As children get older, you can give them more responsibility around the house. You can also encourage them to get a part-time job or do volunteer work.

By making them work for what they want, you can instill a sense of gratitude that will serve them well throughout their lives.

So when your child asks for something that they want, don't just give it to them. Instead, have them earn it by doing chores or beginning a savings plan.

In the long run, you'll be helping them to develop a strong work ethic and a healthy sense of gratitude. This is great to remember when learning how to raise a grateful child in an entitled world. 

Step 3: Help Them to Understand That Not Everyone is as Fortunate

It's important to teach your child that not everyone is as fortunate as they are.

Some children don't have enough food to eat, don't have a place to call home, or don't have access to education.

Helping your child understand this can be a humbling experience for them and it will help to instill a sense of gratitude in them. There are a few ways you can do this:

  1. Volunteer your time at a local soup kitchen or homeless shelter. This will allow your child to see firsthand how other people are living and how they may not have the same opportunities as they do.
  2. Donate items that you no longer need, such as clothes, toys, or food, to a local charity. This will help your child understand that there are people in their community who don't have as much as they do and that they can make a difference by giving back.
  3. Talk about current events and discuss how fortunate we are to live in a country where we have freedom and democracy. This will help your child understand that not everyone in the world is as lucky as they are and that they should be grateful for what they have.

By helping your child to understand that not everyone is as fortunate as they are, you can instill a sense of gratitude in them that will last a lifetime.

scrabble tiles that spell out say thank you

Step 4: Encourage Them to Be thankful for the Small Things

Many children today grow up thinking that they are entitled to things like the newest toys and clothes, and they do not always appreciate what they have.

As a result, they may take for granted the small things in life, like a warm bed to sleep in or a healthy meal.

By teaching your child to be grateful for the small things, you can help them develop a more positive outlook on life. Some things you can say are:

  • "I'm so grateful for this delicious dinner."
  • "I'm so glad we have a warm place to sleep tonight."
  • "I'm thankful that I was able to go to school today."
  • "I'm grateful for my friends and family."

In addition, gratitude has been linked with increased happiness and well-being, so it is certainly worth encouraging in your child.

There are many ways to do this, but some simple suggestions include expressing gratitude yourself, pointing out what others are grateful for, and keeping a gratitude journal.

With a little effort, you can help your child learn to appreciate even the smallest parts of life.

Step 5: Be Patient

Raising a grateful child takes time and effort, but it is certainly worth it.

You may not see results overnight, but if you are patient and consistent, you will eventually help your child develop into a grateful adult.

So don't get discouraged as a parent if your child doesn't seem to be grateful at first.

Keep teaching them the importance of gratitude and eventually, they will learn to appreciate all that life has to offer.

Conclusion

Instilling a sense of gratitude in your child is one of the best things you can do for them.

Not only will it help them to be happier and more positive, but it will also benefit them in the long run.

So if you want to raise a grateful child, use the tips in this article and be patient. 

You will be doing them a great service that will stay with them throughout their lives.

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

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