Yes, It's Normal for a Healthy Couple to Argue

Marriage
May 23, 2025

Though it's often portrayed as a bad thing, arguing can actually be a sign of a strong relationship.

A healthy couple argues because they care about each other enough to want to resolve their differences.

They understand that an argument is not the end of the world and that it can help them grow closer together.

Of course, every couple is different and there's no magic number of arguments that indicates a healthy relationship. 

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions about Marriage

How do you rebuild trust in a marriage after betrayal?

The first step is to take responsibility for your actions and apologize. Next, be honest with your thoughts and feelings. Show that you're willing to change and be a better partner. Finally, set some boundaries to help prevent future hurt. Remember to be patient as it takes time to rebuild trust.

Why is it important to address relationship issues?

Addressing relationship issues is crucial because unresolved problems can significantly impact your emotional well-being, overall satisfaction, and the longevity of your partnership. Left unaddressed, these issues can lead to increased conflict, emotional disconnection, and even the end of the relationship.

What can happen if we don't seek help for our relationship issues?

Ignoring relationship issues can exacerbate problems and make them more challenging to manage over time. This can result in a negative impact on your emotional well-being, increased conflict, and potential dissolution of the relationship.

How can I identify if I am experiencing relationship insecurity?

The key signs of relationship insecurity include feelings of jealousy and possessiveness, low self-esteem, difficulty trusting your partner, fear of rejection or abandonment, and anxious thoughts. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, it may be beneficial for you to seek professional help.

How does EFT couples therapy address negative emotions and interactions?

EFT helps couples identify and de-escalate negative emotions and interactions, replacing them with positive cycles of communication and support. This process fosters a deeper understanding and emotional responsiveness between partners.

Is overthinking normal in relationships?

It's common for people to have occasional worries or doubts in their relationship. However, if you find yourself constantly overthinking or obsessing about your relationship to the point where it's affecting your daily life and causing you significant distress, it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor.