Yes, It's Normal for a Healthy Couple to Argue

Marriage
May 23, 2025

Though it's often portrayed as a bad thing, arguing can actually be a sign of a strong relationship.

A healthy couple argues because they care about each other enough to want to resolve their differences.

They understand that an argument is not the end of the world and that it can help them grow closer together.

Of course, every couple is different and there's no magic number of arguments that indicates a healthy relationship. 

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions about Marriage

How does interdependence differ from co-dependence?

Interdependence involves a balanced give-and-take dynamic where both partners benefit and grow. In contrast, co-dependence features an imbalanced relationship dynamic, where one partner's needs and behaviors excessively dictate the other's actions, often leading to unhealthy dependency.

Where can I find help?

There are many resources available to help you deal with a spouse with a drinking problem. You can talk to your doctor, a mental health professional, or an addiction specialist.

How important is individuality in an interdependent relationship?

Individuality is crucial in an interdependent relationship as it allows each partner to maintain their sense of self, pursue personal interests, and contribute uniquely to the relationship.

How do you rebuild trust in a marriage after lying?

The first step is to take responsibility for your actions and apologize. Next, be honest with your thoughts and feelings. Show that you're willing to change and be a better partner. Finally, set some boundaries to help prevent future hurt. Remember to be patient as it takes time to rebuild trust.

Should we do anything between sessions?

It can be beneficial to reflect on what was discussed during sessions and try to implement any strategies or actions suggested by your therapist.

How long does couples therapy usually last?

The length of therapy can vary depending on the couple's needs and the specific issues being addressed. Some couples might find a few sessions helpful, while others may continue for several months.