Yes, It's Normal for a Healthy Couple to Argue

Marriage
March 21, 2025

Though it's often portrayed as a bad thing, arguing can actually be a sign of a strong relationship.

A healthy couple argues because they care about each other enough to want to resolve their differences.

They understand that an argument is not the end of the world and that it can help them grow closer together.

Of course, every couple is different and there's no magic number of arguments that indicates a healthy relationship. 

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions about Marriage

How can I improve my emotional health in my relationship?

If you're looking to improve your emotional health in your relationship, there are a few key things that you can do. First, make sure that you're communicating openly and honestly with your partner. Second, make sure that you're respecting each other's needs and boundaries. Third, be willing to compromise when necessary. And fourth, always show kindness and understanding towards each other.

How do you rebuild trust in a marriage after lying?

The first step is to take responsibility for your actions and apologize. Next, be honest with your thoughts and feelings. Show that you're willing to change and be a better partner. Finally, set some boundaries to help prevent future hurt. Remember to be patient as it takes time to rebuild trust.

When Should I Talk to a Professional?

If you've tried everything and you're still not sure how to help your codependent husband, it may be time to seek professional help. This is a big decision, but it may be the best thing for your husband and your relationship. If you're not sure where to start, you can talk to your husband's doctor or mental health professional. They will be able to provide you with more information on codependency and how to help your husband.

What are abandonment issues?

Abandonment issues refer to a set of emotional struggles that can result from experiences of rejection, neglect, or loss in childhood or adulthood. People with abandonment issues may have difficulty forming and maintaining healthy relationships, experience intense fear of abandonment, and struggle with self-esteem.

Should we tell our friends and family we're going to counseling?

This is a personal decision that each couple will need to make for themselves. Some couples feel more comfortable sharing this information with their close friends and family, while others prefer to keep it to themselves. Ultimately, the decision is up to you.

What if I feel like my partner doesn't understand me?

It is important to communicate your feelings openly with your partner and to let them know how you are feeling. It is also important to understand that not everyone thinks or behaves the same way, so it is helpful to be patient and understanding with your partner. If communication does not seem to be improving the situation, then seeking professional help may be beneficial.