How to Talk to Your Teenager About Bullying

Parenting
March 26, 2025

It can be difficult to know how to talk to your teenager about bullying.

You may be worried about making the situation worse or upsetting your teenage kid.

However, it is important to have these conversations so that your kid knows that they can come to you with anything that is going on in their life.

Here are a few tips for talking to your teenager about bullying.

Talk About What Bullying Is and How to Recognize It 

Let your teenager know that bullying is never okay.

There are many different forms of bullying, but all involve an imbalance of power. 

The bully uses this power to control or harm the victim. 

Bullying can be physical, emotional, or verbal. 

It can also involve social exclusion or cyberbullying. 

To help your teenager recognize bullying, here are some signs to look for:

  • They are being isolated from their friends or excluded from social activities.
  • They appear anxious or withdrawn.
  • They have unexplained injuries.
  • The teenager's belongings are damaged or missing.
  • They seem unhappy at school or are skipping class.
  • Their grades have dropped.

If you think your teenager is being bullied, talk to them about it.

Ask them what is going on and how they are feeling.

Let them know that you are there for them and will support them through this tough time.

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Create a Plan For How You Will Talk to Your Teenager About Bullying if They are Bullied or Witness Someone Else Being Bullied. 

Step 1: Talk to your teenager about bullying and what it looks like.

Step 2: If your teenager is being bullied, ask them how they are feeling and what you can do to help.

Step 3: If your teenager witnesses someone else being bullied, talk to them about it. Encourage them to speak up and stand up for the victim.

You can say things like, "It takes courage to stand up to a bully, but it can make a big difference in the life of the victim."

Step 4: Reassure your teenager that they can come to you with anything that is going on in their life. Let them know that you will support them no matter what.

You can say things like, "I love you no matter what and I will always be here for you."

Encourage Them to Tell an Adult, Even if the Bully is Their Friend

If your teenager is being bullied, encourage them to speak up. 

It can be hard to stand up to a bully, but it is important that your teenage kid knows that they have the strength to do it. 

Help them practice what they might say so that they feel prepared.

Tell them that you are proud of them for speaking up and that you will support them through this. 

Be sure to say something like, "I will always be here for you no matter what."

If your teenage kid witnesses someone else being bullied, encourage them to tell an adult. 

It is important that they do not keep this to themselves. 

They could be the only ones who can help the victim. 

Discuss Ways They Can Respond if They are Being Bullied

There are many different ways to respond to a bully. It is important to find the method that works best for your kid. 

Some options include:

Ignoring the bully: This can be difficult, but sometimes it is the best option. 

The goal is to make the bully bored and disinterested.

Standing up to the bully: This option can be effective, but it is important to do it in a way that does not escalate the situation.

Avoiding the bully: This may not be possible in all cases, but if your teen can avoid the bully, it may make the situation better.

Telling an adult: This is always an option and can be very effective. 

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 Encourage Your Adolescent to be Assertive, Not Aggressive

It is important to encourage your teen to be assertive, not aggressive. 

Assertiveness is standing up for yourself in a way that is calm and confident.

Aggression is acting out in a way that is angry and violent.

Help Them Practice What They Would Say in Different Situations

Role-playing can be a great way to help your teenagers practice what they would say in different situations. 

This will help them to feel more prepared and confident if they ever find themselves in a situation where they are being bullied. 

Some examples of role-playing are:

  • Your child is being bullied after school
  • Your child witnesses someone else being bullied

You can go through different scenarios of what to say and how to respond. 

These things include:

  • How to ignore the bully
  • How to stand up to the bully
  • How to tell an adult 

Be Supportive and Understanding if They Open Up to You About Being Bullied

If your teen opens up to you about being bullied, it is important to be supportive and understanding.

This is a difficult situation for them to be in and they need your love and support.

Let them know that you are proud of them for speaking up and that you will support them through this. 

Be sure to say something like, "I will always be here for you no matter what."

Reassure Your Teen That They Are Not Alone and That You Will Help Them Through This Situation

If your teen is being bullied, it is important to reassure them that they are not alone.

This is a difficult situation for them to be in, but you will help them through it.

Knowing that they are not alone can create a sense of support and safety for your teenage child.

Thank Them for Talking to You About Bullying

It is important to thank your teen for talking to you about bullying. 

This is a difficult topic to discuss, but it is important to have this conversation with your teenager. 

Bullying is a serious issue and it needs to be addressed. 

Thanking them shows that you are supportive and that you care about their experience.

Conclusion

Bullying is a serious issue that needs to be addressed.

If your teenager is being bullied, it is important to have a conversation with them about it.

Be sure to be supportive and understanding.

There are many resources available to help you through this situation. 

Thank them for talking to you about bullying and letting them know that you are there for them.

Resources 

https://www.stopbullying.gov/

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

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