How to Overcome Complex Trauma in Adults

For adults who have endured multiple traumatic events, the journey of addressing...

Parenting
March 21, 2025

For adults who have endured multiple traumatic events, the journey of addressing complex trauma can feel overwhelming.

Childhood trauma, childhood abuse, and repeated exposure to traumatic experiences can often develop complex PTSD, affecting both physical and mental health.

Those who experience complex trauma combined with these deep-seated mental health disorders, and other problems can persist into adulthood, complicating daily life.

Healing from complex trauma is attainable through therapeutic interventions and cultivating supportive relationships.

The following process explores how to effectively manage and recover from complex trauma experiences, offering insights into overcoming the challenges of such profound trauma exposure.

The Impact of Complex Trauma on Adult Life

Complex trauma can deeply impact an adult's life, affecting relationships, career, and mental health.

Trust issues from complex trauma exposure might strain friendships and romantic ties, causing fear of abandonment or rejection.

In the workplace, managing stress, focusing, and making decisions can become difficult, leading to job performance issues.

Mental health problems like depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder often arise from experiencing complex trauma.

Professional support is crucial to breaking the cycle of chronic stress and its effects.

Steps to Overcoming Complex Trauma

Overcoming complex trauma is a journey that often requires navigating through several stages of healing. 

These steps are not linear and may vary from person to person, but they typically include: acknowledging and understanding the trauma, seeking professional help, and building a strong support network.

Acknowledging and Understanding the Trauma - The first step in healing from complex trauma is acknowledging its existence and understanding its impact on your life. 

This process involves recognizing the traumatic experiences for what they are and accepting the emotions and reactions tied to these experiences. 

It's crucial to understand that these reactions are normal responses to abnormal circumstances. 

This step also includes learning about the generational trauma in your story and reparenting your inner child.

Seeking Professional Help - Professional help in the form of psychotherapy, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), and Prolonged Exposure therapy, among others, can be beneficial.

These therapeutic approaches can help individuals process their traumatic experiences, develop coping strategies, and work toward healing.

It's also important to find the right therapist, one who you feel comfortable with and trust.

Building a Strong Support Network - Having a robust support network is essential in overcoming complex trauma. 

This network can include trusted friends, family members, support groups, or even online communities of those who have experienced similar traumas. 

Reaching out for help and relying on loved ones for emotional support can significantly aid the healing process. Isolation can often exacerbate feelings of loneliness and despair, so it's vital to connect with others during this time.

In addition to these steps, it's important to practice patience and self-love throughout the healing journey.

Healing takes time and everyone's journey is unique. Remember to take care of your physical health as well, as it plays a crucial role in mental well-being. 

Different Types of Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Type of Trauma Description Acute Trauma Stemming from a single intense event like an accident, acute trauma can lead to conditions such as PTSD, posing an increased risk for mental health problems and similar symptoms. Chronic Trauma Emerging from repeated trauma or long-term exposure to stressors like child abuse, chronic trauma results in extreme stress and has a significant impact on mental health. Complex Trauma Resulting from multiple traumatic experiences, complex trauma leads to emotional dysregulation and complex post traumatic stress, necessitating trauma-focused treatment to heal relationships. Secondary or Vicarious Trauma Affects those indirectly involved in trauma, such as community violence responders and mental health professionals, causing intense feelings and emotional challenges. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Triggered by witnessing or experiencing trauma, PTSD involves severe anxiety and flashbacks, requiring diagnosis and treatment by mental health providers to manage difficulty sleeping. Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) Involving symptoms like distrust and altered self-view due to prolonged trauma such as physical abuse, C-PTSD requires targeted intervention to treat PTSD effectively.

Therapeutic Approaches for Complex Trauma

One of the most commonly used therapeutic approaches for complex trauma is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).

CBT is a type of therapy that helps individuals learn how to identify and change destructive thought patterns that have a negative influence on behavior and emotions.

The therapist and the client work together to develop coping strategies and change unhelpful patterns of thinking and behaving.

This approach can help the individual to manage symptoms, prevent relapse, and improve quality of life.

Another effective therapeutic approach is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).

EMDR, an unconventional type of psychotherapy, is specifically designed to alleviate the negative emotions tied to memories of traumatic experiences.

Unlike most forms of talk therapy, EMDR sets itself apart from the majority of talk therapies by prioritizing the addressing of distressing emotions and symptoms stemming from a traumatic event, rather than the event itself.

The therapy involves attention to three time periods: the past, present, and future. Lastly, Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) is another form of cognitive-behavioral therapy that emphasizes the psychosocial aspects of treatment.

It helps people learn and apply skills for mindfulness, emotion regulation, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness.

These therapies, when facilitated by trained professionals, can be instrumental in the healing journey of individuals dealing with complex trauma. 

Self-Care Strategies for Dealing With Complex Trauma

Self-care is a crucial component in managing complex trauma. It can help to alleviate symptoms, reduce stress, and promote overall well-being. Some effective self-care strategies include:

  • Mindfulness and Meditation - Regular practice of mindfulness and meditation can help reduce anxiety, improve focus, and promote a sense of calm.
  • Exercise - Physical activity can help reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. It also promotes better sleep, reduces stress, and boosts overall mood.
  • Healthy Eating - A balanced diet can help maintain energy levels, enhance mood, and support overall health.
  • Adequate Sleep - Quality sleep is essential for mental and emotional health. It helps improve concentration, mood, and the ability to manage stress.
  • Hobbies and Interests - Engaging in activities you enjoy can provide an escape from negative thoughts and build self-esteem.
  • Journaling - Writing about your thoughts and feelings can be a therapeutic outlet for expressing emotions.

It's important to tailor self-care strategies to your own needs and preferences. What works for one person might not work for another. 

Conclusion

Overcoming complex trauma in adults requires determination and the right support.

Seek help from a mental health provider who is skilled in trauma-informed care to guide you through treatments like cognitive-behavioral therapy, EMDR, or dialectical behavior therapy.

Alongside getting help from a mental health professional, practicing self-care through mindfulness, exercise, and a balanced diet can enhance recovery.

Building supportive relationships is key to emotional healing.

Though the journey is tough, with the right treatment and support, reclaiming your sense of self from the effects of traumatic events, including post-traumatic stress disorder and complex PTSD, is achievable.

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

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