How to Help a Grieving Spouse

Marriage
May 23, 2025

Grieving is hard. It's one of the most difficult experiences a person can go through.

For spouses, it can be especially tough to know how to help their loved ones through their grieving process.

But with some understanding and patience, you can make a big difference in your spouse's healing journey.

This is important because your spouse may not be able to express what they need from you during this tough time.

Here are some tips to help you support your grieving spouse. 

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions about Marriage

Is overthinking normal in relationships?

It's common for people to have occasional worries or doubts in their relationship. However, if you find yourself constantly overthinking or obsessing about your relationship to the point where it's affecting your daily life and causing you significant distress, it may be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor.

How can I make quality time for my spouse if we have busy schedules?

Prioritizing quality time together can be challenging with busy schedules, but it's important to make it a priority. Schedule date nights or make the most of the time you do have together, such as during meals or by planning activities that are quick and easy to do.

Can EFT couples therapy be used alongside family therapy?

Yes, EFT couples therapy can complement family therapy by addressing the emotional dynamics within the couple relationship, which can have positive ripple effects on family members and overall family well-being.

How can I improve my emotional health in my relationship?

If you're looking to improve your emotional health in your relationship, there are a few key things that you can do. First, make sure that you're communicating openly and honestly with your partner. Second, make sure that you're respecting each other's needs and boundaries. Third, be willing to compromise when necessary. And fourth, always show kindness and understanding towards each other.

Do I need a referral from my primary care manager (PCM) for marriage counseling?

For most Tricare plans, you do not need a referral for outpatient mental health services, however, it's always best to check with your specific plan.

How much does marriage counseling cost?

The cost of marriage counseling can vary depending on the counselor's experience and qualifications, as well as the length and frequency of sessions. In general, you can expect to pay anywhere from $50 to $250 per session.