How to Help a Grieving Spouse

Marriage
March 21, 2025

Grieving is hard. It's one of the most difficult experiences a person can go through.

For spouses, it can be especially tough to know how to help their loved ones through their grieving process.

But with some understanding and patience, you can make a big difference in your spouse's healing journey.

This is important because your spouse may not be able to express what they need from you during this tough time.

Here are some tips to help you support your grieving spouse. 

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions about Marriage

What are some things that can damage trust in a relationship?

Many things can damage trust in a relationship. Some common examples include lying, cheating, and hiding information from your partner.

How can we tell if couples therapy is working?

Signs that therapy is working can include improved communication, better conflict resolution, and increased relationship satisfaction. However, progress can sometimes be slow and it's important to be patient.

Why is it important to overcome overthinking?

Overthinking can have a negative impact on your relationship, leading to feelings of anxiety, insecurity, and low self-esteem. By working to overcome overthinking in your relationship, you will be able to reduce stress and cultivate trust and security with your partner. This can help strengthen the bond between you and create a more positive and meaningful connection.

Should we tell our friends and family we're going to counseling?

This is a personal decision that each couple will need to make for themselves. Some couples feel more comfortable sharing this information with their close friends and family, while others prefer to keep it to themselves. Ultimately, the decision is up to you.

How do I make my spouse feel special over text?

Here are some ideas:

  • Send a sweet and heartfelt message in the middle of the day
  • Tell them how much you love and appreciate them
  • Send a cute photo with a loving message attached
  • Plan a surprise for later in the day or week
  • What are some thoughtful things to do for your spouse?

Some thoughtful things you can do for your spouse are:

  • Write them a heartfelt letter expressing your love and appreciation for them
  • Make them breakfast in bed
  • Plan a surprise weekend getaway
  • Do something that they've been wanting to do but haven't had the time for
  • What are some romantic things to do for your spouse?

How do you rebuild trust in a marriage after betrayal?

The first step is to take responsibility for your actions and apologize. Next, be honest with your thoughts and feelings. Show that you're willing to change and be a better partner. Finally, set some boundaries to help prevent future hurt. Remember to be patient as it takes time to rebuild trust.