How to Help a Grieving Spouse

Marriage
March 21, 2025

Grieving is hard. It's one of the most difficult experiences a person can go through.

For spouses, it can be especially tough to know how to help their loved ones through their grieving process.

But with some understanding and patience, you can make a big difference in your spouse's healing journey.

This is important because your spouse may not be able to express what they need from you during this tough time.

Here are some tips to help you support your grieving spouse. 

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions about Marriage

How can I identify if I am experiencing relationship insecurity?

The key signs of relationship insecurity include feelings of jealousy and possessiveness, low self-esteem, difficulty trusting your partner, fear of rejection or abandonment, and anxious thoughts. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, it may be beneficial for you to seek professional help.

Can EFT couples therapy be used alongside family therapy?

Yes, EFT couples therapy can complement family therapy by addressing the emotional dynamics within the couple relationship, which can have positive ripple effects on family members and overall family well-being.

What are some common mistakes to avoid in striving for interdependence?

Common mistakes include neglecting personal growth, failing to communicate openly, not respecting boundaries, and overlooking the importance of individual interests.

How can I tell if my relationship is emotionally healthy?

There are a few key indicators that can help you to tell if your relationship is emotionally healthy. First, do you and your partner feel safe communicating with each other? Do you feel like you can express your emotions freely, without judgment or criticism? Are there mutual respect's needs and boundaries? Are you both willing to compromise when necessary? If you answered "yes" to all of these questions, then it's likely that you have an emotionally healthy relationship.

Is it possible to overcome abandonment issues completely?

While complete recovery from abandonment issues may not be possible for everyone, it is possible to manage symptoms effectively with the help of professional support, self-care practices, and ongoing personal development. With time and effort, it is possible to build healthier relationships and increase overall well-being.

Should we tell our friends and family we're going to counseling?

This is a personal decision that each couple will need to make for themselves. Some couples feel more comfortable sharing this information with their close friends and family, while others prefer to keep it to themselves. Ultimately, the decision is up to you.