How to Prepare for Anticipatory Grief

Grief is often associated with the loss of a loved one. Even before death occurs, though, there may be a mourning period...

Grief
March 21, 2025

Grief is often associated with the loss of a loved one Even before death occurs, though, there may be a mourning period. Anticipatory grief is the feeling of sadness felt before a loss really happens, such as when a person learns that they will soon lose a loved one or a significant ability. Loved ones of the sick or dying person, as well as the ill or dying person themselves, may suffer anticipatory grief. Equipping yourself to prepare for anticipatory grief can be part of the grief support you will eventually need. A crucial aspect of preparing for anticipatory grief is finding a way to express your feelings. Expressing how you feel about impending death or loss is a step towards preparing for the actual event. When it gets too much to handle, or you are uncertain about how to move forward, seeking out professional help can be very useful.

They can guide you through the process and help you prepare for anticipatory grief. Also, practicing self-care can be a helpful method of preparing for anticipatory grief. Some people are quick to stop caring for themselves when they know there is an impending death of a loved one or a loss. It is counterproductive to neglect your health in such a situation because it doesn't change anything. Read on to learn more about ways to prepare for anticipatory grief.

Seek Help From Professionals

In cases when anticipatory grief is causing clinically substantial suffering or impairment, seeking professional support may be advisable. Whether you're unsure if your levels of grief are typical, it could help to talk to someone. If you prepare for anticipatory grief, it may make you feel better prepared for the actual loss. Adjustments to the loss may be aided and improved via the development of new coping skills and processes with the assistance of counseling. Counseling for grief, also known as talk therapy, is a supportive environment in which to explore and work through painful emotions. When the loss is felt by everyone in the family, it might be beneficial to seek therapy as a group. Taking part in group therapy or support groups might help you find solace and make meaningful connections with those who understand what you're experiencing. Counseling professionals are there to assist you and your loved one through this difficult time.

Practice Self-Care

By taking care of your emotional and physical health, you may lessen the impact of anticipatory grief on your life. Take some time to unwind and persuade yourself that everything is going to be okay. Spend time with loved ones, prepare a home-cooked dinner, curl up with a good book, etc. Maintain your physical fitness by feeding your body nutritious meals, getting enough sleep, and engaging in regular physical activity. Just do some of the activities you like to do in your spare time, like going on a stroll, listening to some music, or reading a book. You may use journal prompts designed for those experiencing loss to help you process your feelings. Try some mindfulness or guided meditation to keep you calm. Self-care may also include engaging in pleasurable activities with other people. Take whichever action you think will benefit you the most.

Utilize the Time Left

Connect with your loved one. It is essential to savor these moments, engage in meaningful discussion, and be able to recall wonderful times together before you are separated. Spending quality time with one another might provide you both with comfort. Seek out things you'll both love, such as simple conversation, listening to preferred music, or "bucket list" experiences. Also, confront outstanding concerns between you and your loved one without delay. Say what has to be said in order to reconcile or accept your disagreements and find closure. Spending the remaining time performing nice and quiet activities might be a healthy coping mechanism.

A grieving person getting necessary support.

Find a Way to Express Your Feelings

People react differently to loss. It might occur in spurts and evolve over time. However, once it enters your life, it may never leave again. Facing your feelings head-on and learning about sorrow so you can recognize its symptoms is crucial. Voicing your thoughts and feelings about the impending loss helps you prepare for it. Self-expression is a means of releasing pent-up emotions that may become overpowering if not released. Acceptance of the normalcy of one's emotions is a fundamental component of self-expression. Acceptance does not indicate agreement with or desire for your feelings; rather, it simply implies that you notice them. Find a way to express your emotions, whether via a trusted family member, friend, counselor, spiritual adviser, or even a particular activity. Creating art, keeping a diary, and meditating are all excellent methods to express your emotions.

Form a Support System

The impending death of someone cherished is distressing for everyone who loves them. Seek each other's support and assistance. Grief may be immensely isolating. You might have a large network of support and yet feel alone. Some individuals find comfort in knowing they are not alone in their sadness. Lean on friends and family who are supportive and understanding. Being around individuals with whom you feel comfortable discussing your sorrow and anxieties might aid you in coping with both pre and post-death grieving. This will enhance your relationships and establish a supportive community. This network will help you before and after the death of a loved one. Additionally, you may connect with online resources and support networks.

Conclusion

When we anticipate a loss, many of us feel anticipatory grief. Dealing with any kind of loss is difficult, but it does not have to overwhelm you with unending sorrow. Preparing for and managing grief is a process, and having grief support can make a big difference. Some ways to prepare for anticipatory grief include seeking out help, practicing self-care, utilizing the time left, finding a way to express your feelings, and forming a support system.

Resources

https://psychcentral.com/lib/preparing-for-grief#schedule-time-off-work

https://www.verywellhealth.com/understanding-anticipatory-grief-and-symptoms-2248855

https://www.aplaceformom.com/caregiver-resources/articles/anticipatory-grief

https://www.hrrv.org/blog/anticipatory-grief-understanding-grief-before-a-death/

https://www.psycom.net/anticipatory-grief

https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/amp/article/understanding-anticipatory-grief

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions about Grief

Is there any support for family members affected by a loved one's death?

Yes, we provide supportive counseling for family members who are struggling with the loss of a loved one. Our compassionate therapists can help you gain insight into your feelings and provide constructive strategies to cope with the pain of bereavement.

I don't want to ruin the holidays for my family by being sad all the time. What can I do?

It's important to remember that you are allowed to grieve however you need to, and that doesn't mean you have to ruin the holidays for everyone else. If you need to take a break from holiday festivities, do so. Go for a walk, take a nap, watch a movie—whatever you need to do to take care of yourself. You can also try talking to your family about your grief ahead of time and asking for their understanding and support.

What are some things I should avoid saying to an elderly loved one who is grieving?

There are a few things you should avoid saying to someone who is grieving, as they can come across as insensitive or unhelpful. For example, don't tell them that it's "time to move on" or that they "should be over it by now." It's also best not to make any assumptions about how they're feeling or what they need – instead, ask them directly how you can help.

Why is grief worse at night?

Grief may feel worse at night because sleep disturbances are common during the grieving process. As nighttime falls, distractions diminish and we're left alone with our thoughts, which can make the loss feel overwhelming.

How long does it take to get over a breakup?

There is no set timeline for overcoming a breakup. Everyone deals with grief in their own way and on their own time. While some may be able to move forward quickly, others may take longer. Remember that it's normal to experience a range of emotions as you heal and don't rush the process.

What is complicated grief or prolonged grief disorder?

Complicated grief, also known as prolonged grief disorder, is when intense grief symptoms continue for an extended period, often longer than six months. This type of grief can result in difficulty resuming normal life activities and can lead to sleep problems.