How to Help your Teenager Deal with Grief

When a teenager experiences grief, it can be difficult to know how to help.It's important to remember that everyone deals with grief differently, so each...

When a teenager experiences grief, it can be difficult to know how to help.

It's important to remember that everyone deals with grief differently, so each person will need different support from you.

Grief is a challenging experience for everyone, however, teenagers sometimes need a different approach when communicating.

Here is a process for you to communicate to help your teenager process and navigate their grieving process.   

Step 1. Validate Feelings

Let your teenager know that it is okay to feel the way they do.

Give them permission to take their time and understand that grief can be a slow process.

Some things you can say are, "It's okay to feel sadness and anger, I am here to listen when you need someone."   

a young teenager wearing headphones and looking down

Step 2. Provide Comfort

Show your teen that you are there for them by comforting them in whatever way feels right such as giving hugs or holding their hand.

Other ways you can provide comfort are by talking about the person who passed away, or by doing an activity that reminds them of the person.

These things can include:

  • Seeing a movie they enjoyed together
  • Making their favorite meal
  • Talking about memories
  • Creating a photo album of the person's life 

Step 3. Give Space

Respect your teenager's need for space and privacy during this time.

Don't force your teen to talk about how they feel if they don't want to, but let them know that you are available when they are ready to open up.

Some things you can say are, "Take as much time as you need, I am here whenever you want to talk."

Step 4. Listen

When your teen is ready to talk, let them do so without judgment.

Listen attentively and patiently as they share their experiences with you.

What does listening look like?

Make sure you are giving verbal cues like nodding or making sounds that show you understand what they are saying. 

Step 5. Acknowledge Loss

Help your teenager acknowledge the reality of their loss by talking honestly about it.

This can help them process what has happened and begin to move through their grief in a beneficial way.

The words you can use to express this are, "I know this is a hard time, but we can face it together." 

Step 6. Find Support

Let your teen know that it is normal to feel overwhelmed and suggest they seek out additional support if needed, such as talking to a therapist or joining a support group.

You can reach out to local organizations or look online for resources in your area.

The goal is to help your teen find a positive outlet that will allow them to express their feelings and begin the healing process. 

Step 7. Be Patient

Grief can take time, so be patient with yourself and with your teenager as they work through their emotions.

a young teen looking angry

Overcomers Counseling is Here to Help

At Overcomers Counseling, our team provides individual and family counseling services to help those dealing with grief.

We have a team of licensed counselors who specialize in working with teenagers experiencing grief, loss, and trauma.

We are here to help. Contact us today for more information.

Frequently Asked Questions Helping Your Teenager Deal with Grief

How can I help my teenager deal with grief?

The death of a loved one is a difficult experience for anyone, but it can be rough for teenagers. As they are going through so many changes in their lives, they may feel like they are not equipped to deal with such a loss. However, there are many things you can do to help your teenager cope with grief.

What are some common symptoms of grief?

There is no one "right" way to grieve, but there are some common symptoms that many people experience. These can include feeling numb or disconnected, feeling angry or resentful, feeling guilty or blaming yourself, struggling with sleep or concentration, and experiencing physical problems such as headaches or stomachaches. It is important to remember that everyone grieves in their own way and there is no "correct" way to do it.

How long will the grieving process take?

Again, there is no one-size-fits-all answer to this question. For some people, the grieving process may last a few weeks or months, while for others it may take years. It is important to be patient with yourself and allow yourself the time you need to grieve.

What can I do to support my teenager during this time?

There are many things you can do to support your teenager during this difficult time. First and foremost, it is important to be there for them emotionally. Listen to them when they want to talk about their feelings, and offer reassurance and understanding. You can also help them by staying positive and keeping things as normal as possible. Finally, it is important to encourage them to express their grief in whatever way feels comfortable for them ??? whether that's through writing, art, music, or simply talking about their loved one.

Where can I go for more help?

If you are struggling to support your teenager on your own, there are many resources available that can help. You can speak to your child's school counselor or doctor, or contact a local grief counseling center. 

Conclusion

Helping your teenager deal with grief is a challenging process, but by following these steps you can better support them and provide comfort in times of need.

By validating their feelings and providing a safe space to talk, you can help your teen cope with their loss in a healthy way.

If needed, seek out additional support from local organizations or therapists.

Remember that grief is an individual process and each pe

Above all, be patient as your teen works through their emotions. Grief is a difficult journey, but with the right support, it can become easier to navigate. 

Author

Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions

Questions about Grief

What are the stages of grief?

The stages of grief, according to the Kübler-Ross model, include denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. However, it's important to note that not everyone will experience all these stages, or in this order. Grief is a highly individual process.

What is complicated grief or prolonged grief disorder?

Complicated grief, also known as prolonged grief disorder, is when intense grief symptoms continue for an extended period, often longer than six months. This type of grief can result in difficulty resuming normal life activities and can lead to sleep problems.

Why is it important to address grief?

Addressing grief is crucial because unresolved grief can significantly impact your quality of life, overall well-being, and ability to function in daily activities. Left unaddressed, grief can lead to more severe mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, and complicated grief.

What are some helpful things I can say to an elderly loved one who is grieving?

It can be difficult to know what to say to someone who is grieving, but sometimes simply being there for them and offering your support can be helpful. You might try saying something like, "I'm here for you if you need to talk" or "I'm sorry for your loss." You could also offer to help with practical tasks such as running errands or cooking meals.

What are some healthy ways to cope with the pain of a breakup?

There are many healthy ways to cope with the pain of a breakup. Some strategies include engaging in self-care activities, writing in a journal, reaching out to loved ones for support, and reframing your perspective. Additionally, seeking professional help can be an important step toward healing after a breakup.

Why is grief worse at night?

Grief may feel worse at night because sleep disturbances are common during the grieving process. As nighttime falls, distractions diminish and we're left alone with our thoughts, which can make the loss feel overwhelming.

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