5 Benefits of Choosing to Love Again

Grief
March 26, 2025

Losing someone you love is never easy.

Grieving for their loss would not be straightforward.

One day you might wake up that you have finally reached the stage where you can start loving again, and the next day you're overwhelmed with grief.

You need a grief support system around you to help you heal and recover from the loss.

One way to get support is by choosing to love again.

Deciding to love again has many benefits.

It helps you to be happy once again and develop positive emotions.

Loving someone also helps to reduce stress and anxiety.

It also has immense health benefits.

It also reduces or removes the pain you felt when you lost someone you loved.

Read on to gain insights into the 5 benefits of choosing to love again.

It Makes You Happy

Loving someone enhances your mood.

It makes you calm and relaxed.

Deciding to love again may come with confusion, questions, and challenges.

For instance, you may have developed intimacy issues due to the fear of losing a partner.

This makes it difficult for you to form romantic connections with people.

It could also be because there are kids in the picture.

And because it's a whole new experience for them, you might be hesitant to fall in love again.

Since you cannot communicate with them, you hesitate to love again.

Regardless of the issues you face, it is important for you to make the decision to love again.

It makes you happy, and you experience all the giddy feelings, excitement, and positive emotions that come with it.

Loving again does not mean that you forget about the person that passed or that you loved them less.

Rather, it means that you are letting yourself experience love, joy, and happiness.

A couple on a date at the waterside.

It Reduces Stress and Anxiety

Grieving the loss of a partner is a challenging and lonely road.

Their absence can trigger anxiety, and you might feel insecure about opening yourself to love again.

There's no doubt that you need to give yourself time to grieve the loss you have suffered.

Nevertheless, no one sets a timeline for when you should start dating or having feelings for other people.

Choosing to love again helps to reduce your stress levels while grieving.

Warm and fuzzy feelings are a great stress reliever.

A safe and secure relationship would also help you feel less anxious.

This is because being in love and experiencing love helps you to feel relaxed and confident.

In a loving relationship, you are less likely to experience insecurity, anxiety, or depression.

Support from someone you love is also an antidote to negative emotions.

If you're still experiencing anxiety and stress while you are in a relationship, talk to your partner about how you feel and your struggles.

However, don't burden them with your struggles.

You could talk to a professional if you feel you can't deal with the stress or the anxiety is too much to handle.

Don't rush the process of choosing to love again.

Do it when you're totally ready and comfortable with it.

The people around you may want to pressure you to start dating again.

This would only elevate your anxiety and stress levels.

Your decision to love again is yours to make, and you get to decide what the perfect time to start dating again is.

A couple drinking wine together.

It's Good for Your Health

Being in a loving relationship is generally good for your health.

The positive emotions you feel when you newly meet a person and start to develop feelings for them help improve your health.

Choosing to love again means prioritizing self-care since you are now accountable to someone.

When you choose to love again, you are less prone to suffering from high blood pressure, hypertension, and heart disease.

Being in love also boosts your immune system, making you less susceptible to stress and diseases.

When you're with someone, you're also less likely to pick up unhealthy habits such as eating junk, smoking, alcohol, or substance abuse.

It Reduces Pain

The pain you may feel from losing someone can be reduced by choosing to love again.

You are less likely to feel intense pain when you are in love.

You cannot underestimate how your connection to a person can help you go through the emotional pain of losing someone.

Asides from emotional pain, loving again reduces the rate at which you feel physical pain.

If you're experiencing physical pain, being in love can make you heal faster from the pain.

For instance, if you lost your partner to an accident that involved the two of you.

Having sustained injuries, choosing to love again means you heal faster from the injuries and pain.

The emotional and physical support the person provides can help you to manage your pain and work through your grief.

It Increases Life Expectancy

People who are in loving relationships have a huge tendency to live longer.

When your partner passes, you are likely to be overwhelmed with grief.

You are likely to neglect healthy habits.

You may neglect your medical needs and pick up unhealthy habits such as eating junk food, smoking, and substance abuse.

It is common for some people to die a few years after losing their partner.

However, choosing to love again means you're committed to experiencing love and happiness even after life has dealt you a severe blow.

Choosing to love again would definitely take time and patience.

You must be deliberate about choosing who you will spend your life with.

And when you meet someone you connect with, and a relationship is developed, you see yourself looking forward to a new day and getting the most out of life.

The relationship means that you get emotional support which is needed to go through life, especially when faced with challenges.

Conclusion

Choosing to love again is finding someone to provide you with grief support.

Experiencing happiness, reduced anxiety, and stress levels, improved health, healing from pain, and greater longevity are benefits of choosing to love again.

Resources 

https://time.com/5136409/health-benefits-love/?amp=true

https://www.prima.co.uk/diet-and-health/sex-relationships/a42211/scientific-benefits-of-love/

https://www.taps.org/articles/26-2/loving-again-after-loss

https://www.twicetheglam.com/health-benefits-of-falling-in-love/

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/health-benefits

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions about Grief

I don't want to ruin the holidays for my family by being sad all the time. What can I do?

It's important to remember that you are allowed to grieve however you need to, and that doesn't mean you have to ruin the holidays for everyone else. If you need to take a break from holiday festivities, do so. Go for a walk, take a nap, watch a movie—whatever you need to do to take care of yourself. You can also try talking to your family about your grief ahead of time and asking for their understanding and support.

How do I deal with grief?

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How do I deal with my loved one's addiction?

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What are some common symptoms of grief in the elderly?

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Why does grief seem worse in the morning?

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