How to Get Out of Survival Mode from Childhood Trauma

Childhood trauma can have profound and lasting impacts, often carrying into adulthood and manifesting in various ways...

Childhood trauma can have profound and lasting impacts, often carrying into adulthood and manifesting in various ways.

These effects, known as the 'survival mode', can be challenging to navigate, but understanding them is the first step towards healing.

This blog aims to provide a comprehensive overview of survival mode, its symptoms, the importance of self-care, and the role professional help plays in recovery.

By unpacking these complexities, we hope to provide a roadmap for those grappling with the aftermath of childhood trauma, offering reassurance that recovery is not just possible, but within reach.

Understanding Childhood Trauma and Its Impact

Childhood trauma refers to deeply distressing or disturbing experiences that occur during the formative years of a child's life.

These experiences can range from physical, emotional, or sexual abuse to neglect, household dysfunction, or witnessing violence.

The impact of such trauma, when left unaddressed, can seep into adulthood, manifesting in various forms like anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and difficulties in forming healthy relationships.

One such manifestation is the 'survival mode,' a psychological state where an individual constantly feels under threat, leading to heightened stress responses, hyper-vigilance, and difficulty in processing emotions.

This is a defense mechanism that was beneficial in their traumatic environment but becomes maladaptive when the danger is no longer present.

Recognizing Signs of Being in Survival Mode

  • Constant Anxiety: This involves persistent feelings of worry and fear. It's a sign that the person is still living with the perceived threat from their past trauma.
  • Difficulty Trusting Others: Childhood trauma often involves betrayal of trust, leading to difficulty in forming secure relationships in adulthood.
  • Always Feeling on Edge: This is characterized by a state of hyper-vigilance, where the person is always alert and prepared for danger, even in safe environments.
  • Emotional Numbness: Some people in survival mode may disconnect from their emotions as a way to protect themselves from further pain or distress.
  • Impulsive Behavior: This may manifest as risky behavior or a lack of self-control, stemming from the need to immediately respond to perceived threats.
  • Difficulty with Intimacy: Childhood trauma can make it challenging for individuals to form close, intimate relationships due to fear of vulnerability.
  • Frequent Nightmares or Flashbacks: These are signs of unresolved trauma, indicating that the person is still mentally stuck in their traumatic past.
  • Physical Symptoms: Chronic stress can lead to physical ailments such as headaches, stomach problems, and fatigue.

Remember, these signs can vary greatly from person to person, and professional help should be sought if you suspect you or someone else is dealing with unresolved childhood trauma.

Acceptance and Acknowledgement

Acceptance and acknowledgment play pivotal roles in the healing journey from childhood trauma.

Acknowledging past trauma means recognizing and validating the pain and suffering experienced, rather than suppressing or minimizing it.

This is a crucial first step as it brings the issue to light, making it tangible and therefore something that can be addressed.

On the other hand, acceptance doesn't mean condoning what happened or dismissing its impact.

Rather, it involves understanding that the past cannot be changed and releasing the hold it has on the present.

It's about accepting the reality of the trauma, its effects, and allowing oneself to move forward.

Together, acknowledgment and acceptance create a solid foundation for recovery, allowing for further therapeutic work to take place and facilitating the transition out of survival mode.

Seeking Professional Help

Therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists play a critical role in the journey toward healing from childhood trauma.

They're trained professionals who can provide a safe space to explore past experiences, understand their impact, and develop effective coping strategies. Different therapy options are available, each tailored to individual needs.

Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), for instance, helps individuals understand and change thought patterns that lead to harmful behaviors or feelings.

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is another approach specifically designed to help people recover from traumatic events. It's important to remember that seeking professional help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

If you're struggling with symptoms of survival mode, consider reaching out to our specialists at Overcomers Counseling.

We offer a compassionate and supportive environment to help you navigate your healing journey.

Self-Care as a Vital Part of Recovery

Self-care is the deliberate act of taking care of one's physical, emotional, and mental health. It's a vital part of recovery as it promotes well-being, reduces stress, and helps manage symptoms associated with survival mode.

Tips for incorporating self-care into your routine:

  • Prioritize it: Make self-care non-negotiable. Schedule time for it just like any other important activity.
  • Start Small: Incorporate small acts of self-care into your day, like a five-minute meditation or a short walk.
  • Listen to Your Needs: Self-care isn't one-size-fits-all. Tune into what your body and mind need in the moment.

Examples of self-care activities:

  • Physical Activity: Regular exercise can help reduce anxiety and improve mood.
  • Mindfulness Practices: Meditating, journaling, or practicing yoga can help ground you in the present moment.
  • Healthy Eating: Nourishing your body with balanced meals can boost your overall well-being.
  • Connecting with Others: Spending time with supportive friends or family, or connecting with a support group, can provide emotional relief.
  • Rest: Prioritizing sleep and relaxation can help your body and mind recover and heal.

Remember, self-care is a personal journey. What works for one may not work for another. Find what suits you best and make it a regular part of your routine.

Conclusion

In conclusion, acknowledging past trauma and accepting its existence is the first step toward healing. Incorporating self-care into your daily routine plays a vital role in your recovery, promoting overall well-being and helping manage symptoms associated with survival mode.

Seeking professional help, like therapists or psychologists, can provide a safe space to explore past experiences and develop effective coping strategies.

Therapy options like Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy or EMDR can be tailored to individual needs.

Remember, it's okay to seek help. You're not alone in this journey, and it's important to remember that healing is possible, even from the deepest wounds of childhood trauma.

Reach out to resources like Overcomers Counseling, and don't hesitate to lean on supportive friends, family, or support groups.

Continue educating yourself about trauma and its impacts. Your strength and resilience can carry you through this challenging journey toward healing and wholeness.

Author
Jennifer Luttman, LPC, ACS

I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, and owner of Overcomers Counseling. I'm dedicated to helping individuals find strength and healing through life’s challenges. With a deep understanding of mental health and years of professional experience, I specialize in fostering hope and resilience while equipping her clients with tools to thrive. Passionate about empowering others, she creates a safe, supportive space where everyone feels seen, valued, and capable of overcoming obstacles on their path to well-being.

Common Questions about Trauma / PTSD Therapy

How can I find a trauma-informed therapist near me?

You can search online directories, ask for recommendations from friends or healthcare professionals, or contact local mental health organizations to find a trauma-informed therapist in your area.

Can I set boundaries around the topics or pace of therapy?

Absolutely. It is essential to establish boundaries around the topics discussed and the pace of therapy to ensure that you feel comfortable and safe during sessions.

Communicate these boundaries with your therapist, who can help tailor the therapeutic process to align with your needs.

What if my therapist doesn't respect my boundaries?

If you feel that your therapist is not respecting your boundaries, address the issue openly and assertively.

If the issue persists, consider seeking a different trauma-informed counselor who aligns better with your needs and values.

How can I build trust with my trauma-informed counselor?

Building trust with your counselor involves open and honest communication, sharing your feelings and experiences, and working collaboratively to establish and maintain boundaries.

Trust develops over time as both you and your therapist demonstrate consistency, respect, and understanding in your interactions.

How do I know if I need trauma counseling?

If you're experiencing symptoms such as recurring nightmares, flashbacks, heightened reactions, or feeling emotionally numb following a traumatic event, it could be beneficial to seek trauma counseling. Other signs include changes in behavior, difficulty sleeping, and persistent feelings of sadness or fear. There are a number of trauma and ptsd symptoms to look out for.

How long does it take to see results with trauma-informed therapy?

The timeline for seeing results with trauma-informed therapy varies from person to person and depends on factors such as the nature of the trauma, the individual's coping skills, and the level of support they receive.

It's important to be patient and compassionate with oneself during the healing process.